Sex can not be unlearned. Most certainly. Nevertheless, many single women have a certain fear of sex after a long time.
Do you know that? A new man is here – they make an appointment, go out, smooch. And then? Hmm, actually you are looking forward to the first sex. The last time would not have been so long ago …
But do not be afraid of the first sex after a long time – we have written down seven of your biggest worries and give tips on how to easily get rid of your fears.
1. I like him very much. But I do not remember what it feels like to be so close to a man
You wish the first time would be behind you? Do not worry about it. Having a break before having sex with a new guy is normal. At least for those who really like you.
In order to experience closeness physically or emotionally, there must be a degree of trust in one’s counterpart.
The time to build that trust should be mutual. How the partner handles it can be a first test of the relationship. But it’s not a stigma if you can only build closeness in smaller steps – it’s important to be authentic and stay true to yourself.
2. I have not gotten any better since the last sex
The signs of the times do not stop in front of your body? And you finally can not hide it during sex. Here is usually the biggest difference between self-perception and foreign perception: Almost always sees the environment or the partner completely different, as you see yourself. Strengthen your self-esteem by doing something for yourself. If you are satisfied with yourself, you usually look attractive to others as well.
3. I am terribly afraid that I am doing something wrong
Oh, how is that possible? The thing with the sex. Do not worry, there is no right or wrong sex – therefore you can not learn to have sex. Despite the many requirements from the environment, it is important to listen to yourself: what do I want, what I’m fine, what I enjoy, what makes the partner fun …
4. And what if he is bored? Then I’m definitely disappointed
Is there really just one way you can make a man happy? Everyone has certain ideas about what the future partner should be. Sometimes exaggerated ideas also serve the purpose of ultimately not having to commit or the failure own high standards.
5. Is not it better for me to drink a little courage?
Looser and more self-confident through alcohol – this could backfire. The better way is usually to put pressure on yourself to be more relaxed, do not try to play it all in the lead before a meeting – it usually comes in a different way anyway – let the situation come and trust your feelings.
6. Do I have to leave or stay overnight?
After sex is before sex. Often the situation afterwards is perceived as much more intimate. What am I talking about now? About politics, the bedding or the photo of his mother? And can I just get up naked and go easy in the direction of the bathroom?
For both the situation can be a bit strange after all, they have shared something very intimate and have to sort that out first, but that’s the same for the partner, and humor can help here as well, whether you stay the night or leave right here you should listen to your feeling.
7. If it’s not bombastic, he’ll leave me
If that’s the case, you’d better shoot the guy to the moon instead of blaming himself. Be aware of your value, if you have big fears: the bad experiences you bring back from past relationships can be worked up – with friends, but also with professional help.